Thanks Gardener. I am trying and think I am doing good MOST times. That's pretty damn good under the circumstances. Me? I broke down like a basket case for the first few months. There are some pretty low lows though and it is no fun. Read Peaks and Valleys by Spencer Johnson, No More Mr. Nice Guy by Robert Glover and Hold On To Your N.U.T.s by Wayne Levine and by all means read The Four Agreements by Don Luis The first three are filled with strength - manly strength. And the fourth is simply - and amazingly - an immediate, easily-implementable roadmap to inner peace. True.For what it is worth I have followed your story since I found this place in Oct. Good, I'm glad you didn't read June, July, August - my basket-case days and I can say that you are someone to be looked up to IRL and on here. I hope that I can become a man like you are You are too kind: a) You are a man. A hurting, betrayed, buffeted man, like I was, but a man, still, nonetheless. (you proved that during sicko FIL's tirade). When we're beaten down like this we forget that. Summon it back up! It's still in there. b) I got my strength back by being advised, cared for, encouraged and having the crap lovingly 2x4'd out of me by the wonderful, hurting men and women on this board. Stay here! Listen, hear, and heed! Your XW claims about you are as ridiculous as mine. True. But I no longer take them personally (one of The Four Agreements). Endure, ytjuy. You are a father; you are being watched.
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Gardener
"My soul, be satisfied with flowers, With fruit, with weeds even; but gather them In the one garden you may call your own." Cyrano deBergerac
