Any tips to deal with Jealousy on my part

[newmama]

Most people are telling me not to help her but I disagree.

I want her to see me as the good guy during the move before I go grey or black.

Whoa, have you read Dr. Harley's "Surviving an Affair?" He says to do this! check out marriagebuilders.com.

Can she afford to go stay at a motel until her apartment is available? I made WH do this and it was way less painful to not see him glowing with anticipation for his new life.

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She is very convincing when she assures me that there is nobody. But from what I read here, WAW's and MLC wifes can be good liars. I really want to believe her. All I can do is give her the benefit of doubt.

I was 100% sure that my WH was "just friends" with OW because he assured me repeatedly until her exH started sending nasty texts and he finally confessed. My WH was an angel before all of this so I really wanted to believe him.

g450, I only tell you this because, believe it or not, you might feel some relief knowing all this weird behavior is due to an A AND NOT BECAUSE OF YOU. I know I felt relief at knowing the truth.

She has been acting a bit strange this weekend. She spent all day cleaning the kitchen and oven etc. I told her she didnt have to bother with that. Ironically, in the 20 years we lived there, the place never looked that clean.

guilt.

Again, if your W is having an MLC induced A, you have very good odds at R after she goes through her journey. (if you want her back)But if you do not make self improvements the R won't last. So get started after you mourn the loss of your old marriage. Self improvement also helps to take your mind off of her and prepare for a new life if that is what happens.