And I am amazed by the support I got from the guys also- Gardener, GIMA, IWITW, Trent, VH, and others. Everybody's concern got me headed in a new direction, and I am incredibly indebted to this forum- I couldn't have done this alone!
You're fortunate to be surrounded by guys here who have the same attitudes about sex and intimacy in marriage.
You deserve better than what your H is offering you. I'm confident that by this time next year, you'll be on your way towards achieving it.