I guess your D needs to realise that your XH has the issues, not her. But, she is emotionally attached to him, and at such a young age, will find it difficult to deal with his behaviour.

I found these links (which info you probably know about, but in case you find something different and interesting, I will post them here):
http://www.drirene.com/11_nar.htm
http://wiki.answers.com/Q/Will_a_narcissistic_father_ever_accept_you (I found this one interesting where your D is concerned --- it seems she is the babysitting object in his new family)
http://www.mental-health-today.com/narcissistic/father.htm
http://narcissisticparents.blogspot.com/2008/04/how-my-narcissistic-father-got-that-way.html (interesting blog)

I wonder if there are levels of narcissism? Are some worse than others --- probably, just like there are levels of empathy in people. I have seen so much of this on the board ---- parents completely exiting their children's lives, or only wanting them around for what they can get out of it.

Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed.
D35,S/D twins28,D22
EA4/04 End? Who knows?
"Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim