It's so easy people really overlook it sometimes!

[Zoo]

I have LOTS of ideas on this nightshade. I think I posted one of them on someone's thread??

One idea: H sought out OP who was EXACTLY like I was when we first met. H was TRYING to relive OUR beginning R...it was a time when he was very happy and satisfied and he wanted that again.

Another idea: Something different...they are bored of the same-old, same-old. They think someone new will solve that problem.

One more: Their self-centeredness when an A occurs becomes all consuming. They focus on the pleasure they are getting and feeling from the sitch and don't want to give up a "good thing". I think the thrill of getting away with "it" is tied up in this someplace too.

I too reached a point in a friendship where things got too close to crossing the boundaries. This friend and I even discussed the distinct plausability and probability of such a thing happening if we were to ever be in the same vicinity as on another. When it looked like H and I were going to split up for sure this friend let me know that I was more than welcome to come out and move in with him. It was very, very tempting. The friend was great at boosting my PMA and made it known that he felt H was losing the best thing he would ever have

My saving grace?? My friend lives half a country away and I can't travel anyplace on my own. I realised what was happening yes, but at the time I felt I needed that boost to keep me going. Guilt started to eat at me though and when H told me about his A I ended up telling him about my friend. In a sense I guess I was in my own EA H and I started working things out, he didn't blame me for the friend and I's R (he understood it too well). The friend and I are still friends but we both agreed it was something that was never going to happen and we have tempered our friendship accordingly. Actually, we hardly speak at all anymore.

Zoo