very true twin! I did know about how easy it was.. but from the outside you see, it's always more difficult to fully understand.
But noticing how easy this friendship turned on my, when i wasn't even giving it a thought gave a completely different perspective.
LIke shiny I would like to think that I would never cross the line, but the same way she reasons.. I don't know. True it's showing that I am able to recognize boundaries and reaffirm them if needed. But in other circumstances .. would I find myself in the middle of an affair before I had time to even think ? The current thingy.... still I don't think I would go there. Relationships are complicated things. I have enough in my hands trying to work on this one! NO need for more complication in my life Now why is it more difficult to some people to jump back from the stepped boundaries I don't know yet.
EVen copping with guilt a lot of people continue affairs that aren't even taking them anywhere. Guilt is sometimes a factor. Even though a strange one... they don't feel guilty that they're cheating on us, but they feel guilty that they might have lead the op? Thye're fine with hurting us, but want to avoid hurting the op? I don't know.. any ideas on this? why some people have more trouble than others after realizing they actually are in an affair that they weren't really looking for and it's not particularly fulfilling?
Nightshade
"Each and every one of us is deserving of a kind word, a gentle thought and the gift of understanding. "
