Help, sorry I put this in a couple different forum

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I was told to try to keep my stitch in one thread so that it will be easier for others to follow. I like this forum because we are separated. Therefore, here is a copy of what I originally posted in the Newcomers forum:

I'm a newcomer, so I thought I should post my story here. My husband has been out of the house for 4 weeks now. I have asked him to come home several times, but he refuses. He went to 2 marriage-counseling sessions and at the 2nd one he said he had made up his mind that he is done. In addition, wants to put the house up for sale right away. If you had asked me 3 months ago if my marriage was in trouble, I would have said no way. The arguing came on fast and hard and within a 2-month period he's out. Lots of stress, but we handled it well until I broke my leg in Sept. In Oct he went on several hunting trips. I started suspecting that he was having an emotional affair because of text's and emails. I confronted him and he said they were just friends. The problem is I became obsessed with checking on him and pushed him further away until we were arguing all the time. He wanted to pretend that nothing was wrong, but I wanted to fix it. Therefore, we came to a standstill and I asked him to move out. What a mistake. So now, I am trying the last resort technique, but I am having such a hard time sticking with it. We have two kids, so we see each other often. Any help or suggestions would be greatly appreciated.
Together 16 years
Married 12 years
2 kids ages 9 & 6
Seperated 12/3/09