I had a short thread about a month ago and although I tried hard my W was/is determined to get the big D. There is not much I can do about that. However, today things have fallen apart and become a disaster/critical point---her father bust thru my door and threatened to kill me and that he knew people that would put me into the ground. Press charges. Seriously. called me boy and p***y and other things that go lower that that. I am amazingly surprised at how I handled this by not escalating this into a physical altercation and repeatedly told him that he needs to leave MY house, Damn straight! and I will not fight him, he kept trying to get me to fight him, Good for you. Boy did you display strength and courage.finally I moved towards a phone and told him that I was calling the police.You should have called then and there. Name, address, car make/model. plate number, direction he sped off in, etc.He than left and sped off all the while telling me that he was going to get me, etc, etc... I did file a report and document this with the station just in case. I dont believe that he will do anything as he has always been all bark no bite All Bark and no bite does not break down a door and threaten lives. Screw the restraining order. Press charges.but what else could/should I do? I am alot freaked out about this and am not sure how to proceed. Cooly, bravely, no-holds barred. I have already called my lawyer but she is not in until Monday, called the Police and filed a report but am i missing something? Again, press breaking- and-entering charges and violent threat of bodily harm charges (or its equivalent). Fight back. Hard. This is Bullsh!t. And dangerous. And your "castle" I have been threatened by my W more times than I can count with Get a small digital audio recorder. Small, inexpensive. If you get nailed for one-party-permission recording it will be a small price to pay for the evidence you'll have amassed. Do not leave your house. W also threatens constantly to call the police and report a false abuse charge to get me removed from the house. Record that, too. Do you have a close friend you can call to come witness such non-occurances when she threatens to report them?At this point the D is filed and we are waiting on the paperwork to come back and she needs to re-finance the house into her name so that I can go get another loan--however she will not do that and says that she cannot afford to re-fianance...Well, now, ain't that too bad.Not your problem. I did call my W after her dad left and asked what this was all about Why? Why bother to voluntarily open yourself up to spewing?and she said that he is justified in his actions because he(dad) is upset and that I do not respect him(wonder why!). Please help...................
Also, tell lawyer you need the means to reach him at a moment's notice. Also tell him to prepare and file whatever he has to to force FIL to pay for door damages Hardball, ytjuy, Hardball
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