I was just wondering how your situation is coming. It sounds great that your W is wanting to reconcile, but I can understand your issues of trust after the affair. There is a scripture in the bible. Forgive me I'm not that well veresed.
God asks a man to marry a prostitute. Things go well for some time and he loves her dearly. Eventually, she strays and becomes a prostitute again. She sinks to the lowest and ends up being a slave. The man ends up buying her back and forgives her despite her sin and indescretion. He loves her unconditionally and forgives her just as God forgives us. Think about that.
Took a break from the forums, only commented a few times in the past few days, as for my own situation, I spent new years eve with my kids and we had a great time, my wife spent it with her parents and was visibly affected by all of this - she forgot that she had done this to me the previous year - I reminded her that this is what joint custody was all about, sharing the kids and each of us would be losing out on specific dates.
Today she texted me easily 2 dozen times and also asked if I was ignoring her, that she wanted to talk to me, how I could easily brush her off, etc. etc. I was at the gym for a few hours and I missed the bulk of these texts but you can see how not replying to txt messages and phone calls can drive a spouse crazy, each msg was followed by another one only a few minutes later with a heightened sense of anxiety attached to each one.
She wants to talk badly, I told her to call me later in the evening after the kids are in bed and we can talk - we'll see what she wants to talk about ;-)
