I still get a bit lost here. Sometimes I don't have a chance to come for a few days and when I do, I'm completely lost LOL so many threads and posts I don't even know where mine are !!! hehehehehe
I debated posting for a few minutes I wasn't sure how it was going to be taken, but at the same time I felt it had something to offer. So many of us - including myself here - still think about the "hows" and the "whys" and although in many cases there might be "hows and whys" in many others things just happened. No planning, no weak links in the marriage, no big problems.. just overlooking some signs, passing some boundaries without noticing and it's right there. I think this might help some people to concentrate on what needs to be the focus : our goal. Not why it happened or how. It's enough that it happened. It's enough that it is so easy to happen. I loose track of my goal often LOL but I've trained myself to get back to it. I think after this it is also a bit easier to understand Rui. Not to get him off the hook , not to use that as a nice and perfectly good excuse for what he did, but just to undersand .
Now I"m going back to try and read some more posts. I have some free time before dinner and really want to catch up.
Personality traits are often what we make of them.. and that can always be good if we're responsible and caring:)
Hugs to you nightshade
"Each and every one of us is deserving of a kind word, a gentle thought and the gift of understanding. "
- still think about the "hows" and the "whys" and although in many cases there might be "hows and whys" in many others things just happened. No planning, no weak links in the marriage, no big problems.. just overlooking some signs, passing some boundaries without noticing and it's right there.