I know, GIMA. I feel a little Kevinesque today. Once all of his stuff is out, it feels kind of final. I know it can all be brought back, but I feel like it's another nail in the coffin.
I wouldn't say it is final. But I would say that you get the gut feeling with another nail in the coffin. It seems like all I am being coached to do is to move forward with my life and leave W in the rear view mirror. And at the same time I am being told this is the only way I will ever have a chance if one at all of having her back in the future. To some extent, it seems logical as I have no idea how to draw her back in and start peicing. On the other hand, I am learning how to move forward, but still have no idea how to ever start peicing again if she starts ever coming around again. But if I ask that question, I will get beat over the head for thinking about it. So I don't ask it on my thread.
What you are doing does not mean it is over. Things can always turn at some point. Even now, I am not sure that this represents being over so much as a definite separation for you and H. I think the important thing is to figure out that you will be ok if he doesn't come back. Once you are comfortable with that, it should be much easier to reconcile properly if things turn back that way. But again, how do you peice back after moving forward if the opportunity presents itself. How do you know when it is ok to look at peicing?
Right now you aren't quite there. But I am not totally 100% convinced yours is in the pot. You are keeping strong and that is important. You are doing good sadgirl.
Kevin
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Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
