Pls help--confused and fearful

[newmama]

DBD did you contact him yet? You are meeting with your L tomorrow, right? Well, here is one way to think of this...WH has always given you money to pay for the mortgage. It is his responsibility. How could he not know the mortgage is due? And even though you are looking for jobs, everyone knows most people don't find a job within a month of looking! So, you do not have any obligation to 1) let him know the mortgage is due and 2) pay it.

As for a hostile divorce, the only one being hostile is HIM. At any point IF the divorce proceedings start, then you can talk to him, right? But IMO since he hasn't given you the money, HE KNOWS you can't pay the mortgage. The bank won't foreclose on one late payment. (this is hardball)

Have you decided if you want the divorce? If not, then don't bring it up!