Coming up on One-Year of DB'ing...

[Gardener]

Good news.
Can't wait to hear it all.

[Virtually_Handsome]

My S15 is just aver 5'6", and 110, and I thought he was thin!

I agree that it is time for a boundary. Well, really I think it's time to decide whether you are content for things to remain as they are. Because if you are not, you are the one who is going to have to do something about it.

(((((((mindfull)))))))

[Dia]

Hiya, MF!

Just checking in. And just so you know, you're one of my board heroes for your tenacity. You've really hung in there. I find you strong, witty and wise, and I often wish I was one of those GFs you could go walking with!

Cheers!

Dia

[givingitmyall]

GIMA -

It'll take me a day or so to "practice" the schpeel...

I'm all for practice.

I like the way Coach puts it (and many others here too):

"H, when you do XXXXXXX
I feel XXXXXX
If you continue to do XXXXXX
I will XXXXXX"

Short, clear, calm and to the point.

[luvless]

(((((((((Mind))))))))))))

[Gnosis]

Well, really I think it's time to decide whether you are content for things to remain as they are. Because if you are not, you are the one who is going to have to do something about it.

Jeff, I used almost the exact same words with Handful a day or two ago.

[kara]

MF

We are rooting for you, girl. You are such a fab, fun, fearless female. Good luck with the boundary setting.

[S.T. _I Made It!]

hey, my holidays were great thank you! cept the part where my husband puked in my truck. yes, sad huh. thankfully most of it fell on his pants... then he almost fell face first down my moms stairs!! obviously he is not holding his alcohol well! lol

and wow, yes, your boy is skinny! but I remember my brother was too, can't remember the weight and height, but he was a total stick, until he hit his 20s. he wasn't into sports or anything, so never worked out...I'm sure your boy will bulk out later..he's just got a high metabolism. maybe he could start lifting weights?

as for your boundaries, I'd like to hear them, if you would share. you've been in this part of the sitch for a while, and if you feel ready to step it up, then go for it. (along with the flirting too.

[S.T. _I Made It!]

and great job giving him some responsibility with the kids!!! keep doing that, it will help with his sense of head of household and level of respect, I think. and remember to try and respect his decisions...he may not do well at first because he's kinda new to it, since you've done it so long...besides the fact that he's a guy, and moms are just better at that. haha

[mindfull]

OK, folks... H passed first litmus test. G gave me an idea to see if he is GLUED to the phone. He passed w/flying colors.

Well, really I think it's time to decide whether you are content for things to remain as they are. Because if you are not, you are the one who is going to have to do something about it.

Jeff, I am. I am slowly gaining some confidence. I can't do it all at once. The above mentioned test was a huge step for me. I feared not, and stepped up. He passed...

Next step to happen sometime this week...

"H, I realize your phone is important to you for work (and it is, 24-hours - he has to deal w/them..., but considering the shaky ground we've been on, it makes me suspicious when you keep such close tabs on it, thus deteriorating my trust in you.

I need you to help me w/this, and keep it out in the open. If not, that shows me you don't really care how I feel, so I'll take that into consideration when you're wanting to just "talk, hang out, etc..."

Short, clear, calm and to the point.

H has ALWAYS kept the phone ON him, and needed to do so because of his drivers. However, it's ever so slightly "out of touch/sight" more often. He's not on it, hardly at all, so I don't think he's necessarily dying for communication w/someone, but I think there could be stuff on there he's not willing to share or have me see.