Well I don't know why you give my husband so much credit. You guys forgetting he said, "it's not you it's me...I don't know if I wanna be married anymore?" speech last Monday night?
You are giving my H too much credit. He is BARELY here..wavering back and forth and being the SELFISH sob that he is...not caring about me or the kids in all of this.
Today he is just basically avoiding me. He has a big two week vacation coming up with his going on business with his possible ow. I don't have any proof but my gut tells me otherwise. It makes me ill to even consider it.
I am disgusted and want to call him on all his sh*t....though whatever is the attitude I must take right? GAL? like you don't know!
Two weeks I will party it up for a while he is gone and forget all of this for now. It's a MUST on my behalf. If I don't I'll sink. I'm so mad right now...I know it's a "feeling" right now but I am...pissed.
I'll need you guys these next coming weeks.
Luv
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M44 H41 M20 T23 3 older teens Bomb Nov 09 "i'm not happy" EA Nov 09 w/coworker Another PA in Mar 10 I Filed Apr 10 D final Dec 10
Well I don't know why you give my husband so much credit. You guys forgetting he said, "it's not you it's me...I don't know if I wanna be married anymore?" speech last Monday night?
That's typical WAS script, though. He really doesn't know what he wants. That's why the books say to not pay any attention to what they say and only half of what they do right now.
Me: 44, Wife: 39 M: 17 years T: 20 years Bomb on 08/25/09 1/13/10: MC started 1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs 8/28/10: Wife moved out No talk of D, no movement
Well I don't know why you give my husband so much credit. You guys forgetting he said, "it's not you it's me...I don't know if I wanna be married anymore?" speech last Monday night?
That's typical WAS script, though. He really doesn't know what he wants. That's why the books say to not pay any attention to what they say and only half of what they do right now.
I know Trent - I do....I can't believe anything right now...I'm way too confused.
M44 H41 M20 T23 3 older teens Bomb Nov 09 "i'm not happy" EA Nov 09 w/coworker Another PA in Mar 10 I Filed Apr 10 D final Dec 10
You mentioned the drinking. Alcoholism is often a huge factor in the dissolution of relationships. It is hard to judge how much is too much when you are in the relationship. Do you think your husband has a problem with alcohol?
BobbiJo showed up at her husband's hotel room when he went on a business trip with OW. She caught them together. Perhaps she would have advice for you.
I almost feel stupid for my previous posts since I didn't read everything first. But, here are my thoughts. because of your inability to believe he had been trying...your sarcasm about him saying the a guy's staring at his hot wife...and the other things G and I mentioned that you weren't totally believing. I would assume that because you are showing this to us, your probably showing this to H too. IDK, since I'm not there seeing it happen, but that is why I think he backed off. plus, that is usually the trend anyways...they get close, then back off because they get scared, or whatever. Or, perhaps there is an OW, not that he is having an EA or PA, but maybe it is the reason for his confusion. who knows. either way, your goal needs to be the same, and you need to start doing what G's been telling you.
I am glad that you mentioned him doing acts of service isn't what you need. don't expect something to magically happen though. if acts of service is his top LL, then he is showing you love now. it's hard to change what you've been doing all your life.
I'm really sorry for the turn of events. I don't believe for one second that your M is 99% failed. IMHO, you still have a tremendous amount of reason to be hopeful.
and if your H's LL is acts of service...what acts of service did you do for him during the xmas/movie night days? could he have felt that his trying wasn't matched because he was looking for love in a different way than you were showing it?
(((luv)))
Hey S.T.! Fellow Tulsan!!
H: 50 W: 48 Married 20 years Bomb and separation: 9/12/09 A discovered 12/02/09 http://tinyurl.com/yctnhec
BobbiJo showed up at her husband's hotel room when he went on a business trip with OW. She caught them together. Perhaps she would have advice for you.
I wouldn't put myself in that position...I just wouldn't.
M44 H41 M20 T23 3 older teens Bomb Nov 09 "i'm not happy" EA Nov 09 w/coworker Another PA in Mar 10 I Filed Apr 10 D final Dec 10
