Live your life to the fullest and try to focus on other things. Okay?
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
I am Snod...really entruly i am! something new that came up is all...he has isolated himself from his real friends cause they can all see that something is going on with him...
gonna take the girls sled riding tomorrow and take a days break from all of my scrubbing! LOL
me 39 h 38 kids 9 and 6 h left 8/9/09 loving and devoted wife and mother still going...10 months later...
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
I know I will probably get slaughtered for this one, but I need some honest input. very curious because it truly could be looked at as good...not turning him away, or bad...rewarding his behavior
thoughts?
me 39 h 38 kids 9 and 6 h left 8/9/09 loving and devoted wife and mother still going...10 months later...
he was talking of spending more time here...for the kids on a more regular basis...i said that would be good for them.
h was here all day yesterday...kids were excited as usual but surprisingly went about their own things with xmas games and all...
h made a comment and I simply stated, well its your presence that they need, I dont think they are gonna be on top of you the whole time you are around. they are happy you are "home", but busy with their own little things...
kinda felt bad but what does he expect?
i did my own thing for about an hour and a half...he sat in front of the tv.
after my phone calls, shower and getting dinner going i sat and watched a movie with him. Rendition, it was a pretty good one so nothing gained nothing lost...
he was talking of spending more time here...for the kids on a more regular basis...i said that would be good for them.
ya know...we have an extra bedroom. I had mentioned it months ago and he simply states that he "cant"
im not sure as to what that meant, or means.
even if the 2 of us moved slowly or sometimes hardly at all, it would be better for the girls to atleast see him daily again. with the weather now it sometimes hinders that...
Last edited by lost1234; 01/04/1012:52 PM.
me 39 h 38 kids 9 and 6 h left 8/9/09 loving and devoted wife and mother still going...10 months later...
You are right about the kids just needing their dad around, not necessarily interacting with them every minute but just being there. Months ago my H seemed to think taking the kids to a movie once a month was all he needed in order to be a good parent.
So you mentioned the extra room thinking maybe your H should move back in there? I have a live-in separation situation with an MLCer and it is dang hard. You have their moods in your face all the time, and there were several months where my H was basically never home, except to sleep, and that was extremely difficult, having to wonder where he was, etc. Once I learned to detach that became easier, but it has taken a long time. I just wanted to throw that out there. That being said, there is the possibility he would be around the kids more. It sounds like he isn't ready though. He knows that room is there if he feels he "can."
