Trying to move on

[mishka422]

The finances are just such a mess. Essentially she'll owe me a lot of money but have no way to get it -- so I don't know how that works.

FYI CTH - The final decree means exactly diddly squat. If they can't pay what they owe you, too bad. No one is going to come after them for it, you can't garnish their wages for it (only CS can be garnished by you), the credit card companies could care less what your decree says they will come after whoever is making some money and take it. Example, all of our credit cards were joint accounts. The decree gave me CS (of which I get less than 1/4 of what he was supposed to pay due to job loss), he was to pay all of the legal costs (never got a cent), he is supposed to pay 1/2 of all credit card bills (I've never seen one cent and the cc companies will not work with me and I can't pay them). If you are not prepared to take on ALL costs including possibly the mortgage on a house you are not living in, then don't file until you sort all of that out.

Trust me, the courts will do nothing for you other than cement your time with your kids. Everything else is a free for all. The judge will sign off on virtually anything regarding finances because they know that it won't be enforced by the law. It's civil. It's totally up to you to enforce all by yourself.

Good luck with that.