Have you tried apologizing for what you said in the heat of argument? Too often we lose sight of the big picture and get really angry over little things. It takes a big man to apologize, you know.
I agree. Just take ownership for your part of the argument and apologize; it's another form of validation.
Me: 44, Wife: 39 M: 17 years T: 20 years Bomb on 08/25/09 1/13/10: MC started 1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs 8/28/10: Wife moved out No talk of D, no movement