Thanks Lotus!!! OK, that all sounds clear, simple and I think feasible. We did talk about it next day and we kind of agreed such convos didnt mean we were incompatible as he used to say (proof we shouldnt be together) and that we should watch our language (we dont curse or use bad language, we use hurtful language). We are still overly "careful" NOT to get into such conversations afraid that we will end up arguing... I guess I have to lead the way. K
PS The kids were downstairs. It was just the 2 of us but I know they watch closely how we interact...
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