Thank you for your post. It helped tremendously. There are couple of additional details that may be relevant. My wife and I are already in MC that has become more IC. It is our only source of communication. As far as the separation agreement, my wife has proposed me a really good deal where she is not coming after any significant assets. If I hold out and this gets messy with lawyers, things will definitely get a lot worse for me financially. It is definitely in my best interest to sign this deal while her motivation (guilt) remains. Let me know your thoughts.
My thoughts are currently to sign the separation agreement right away, spend a couple of weeks gathering intel and then confront. The problem is at that point I have zero leverage except for exposure.
