Someone who went to the former spouse's wedding started to describe the bride.. "..and she's not the most.." I told them to hush that I wasn't interested.
I fully expect never to meet her in my life... which is not a bad thing. And there's no need because she has no involvement that I know of with my kids. None of my business.
Any change, any loss, does not make us victims. Others can shake you, surprise you, disappoint you, but they can’t prevent you from acting, from taking the situation you’re presented with and moving on. No matter where you are in life, no matter what your situation, you can always do something. You always have a choice and the choice can be power. -Blaine Lee
I thought this quote is very a propos with most if not all of the sitches here...especially during the holidays where there is a certain "melancholia" that can creep in.....
Holidays are almost over.....all in all I got through it relatively unscaved....
Last night xstepdaughter came by for supper with her fiancee. D9 and NGF were there. We had a very nice evening...everyone got along fine. A few stories (very few) about the X's family and one friend in particular... really glad i am out of there. Both NGF and fiance are of Portuguese origin.
Other xstepdaughter is coming over for lunch today....with her ex girlfriend (don't ask....not that there is anything wrong with that). It is nice that both stepdaughters want to stay in touch. They turned out to be caring young women...I like to think I had a little something to do with it.
NGF is in my bed as I write this...I guess I will go wake her up and cuddle ....
If there is one thing I've learned in the last couple of years, is that there are a lot of really nice people out there that society is too quick to judge. And sometimes, the ones complaining the loudest don't have their own house in order. There's only one judge I care about. And He already knows the whole Plan. I was reading that you are never never ever getting married again. I get it.
Me:44, WAW hx bi-polar H:48, hx of abuse S:22, S:19, D:16 Filed Oct 08, dismissed Filed again Jan 10, dismissed Now Piecing alter persona: SuperBoots
If there is one thing I've learned in the last couple of years, is that there are a lot of really nice people out there that society is too quick to judge.
I am learning this too.
"Always go straight forward, and if you meet the devil, cut him in two and go between the pieces." - William Sturgis, clipper ship captain, 1830's.
Just got back...we decided to go out to eat. Nice afternoon...bought xsd and her friend lunch. She asked to me to promise to go visit her...she lives 2 hrs. away. One thing I know is that both xsds have developped into fine young ladies. I also notice that they are old enough now to see things around them and make their own opinions. Unfortunatelly for them, their monm still shows signs of selfishness. I guess some things never change. I often thought that I did not do enough for these young women...they disagree. I will try to be more "visable" at their request. Interestingly both said that I am their stepfather for life...
