Hope is the thing with feathers....

[antlers]

My intentions would be to help her heal and understand.
My expectations would be for her to heal and understand.
It's for her. I am very remorseful that I caused her the pain that I did, and I would like to help her heal, and understand.
Copying the 'spouse' portions of the book to give to her seems like an even better idea. "W, this is part of a book I've been using as a basis to grow and become a better person, and the first step to doing that was gaining some insight into what you went through for years being married to me."
How do I make it about her? How do I make it clear to her that it 'is' about her? Should I say anything else?

Thank You so far Bridge. I would appreciate more insight from you on this.