My son wanted a playdate and sleepover with his friend who lives a mile or so away. My night is Saturday. STBXW has Sunday. One week prior, STBXW told me that she was sleeping over her mother's house with the kids. Yesterday, I texted my STBXW that S9 was going to sleepover with his buddy and that I would bring home D6 to be with her.
She said 'no'. My son had been looking forward to this..wanted it....and STBXW has 'no'd' nearly everything I've tried to do with him. This was going to hurt him...BIG TIME.
I said no, that it was my night with the kids and I wouldn't break his heart. You can imagine the texts from her. I won't type all of them but some of the reasons that I "had" to bring him home: -she was his mother -she doesn't know the people he is sleeping with (will she after we are D'd?) -there may be guns in the house (my friend is a law enforcement officer)
I gave her contact info, the mom's name and let her talk with S9 who kept saying "mom, I want to stay over" and then handed the phone to me.Then SHE CALLED THIS MAN. She requested all sorts of personal info from him: My friend: "Ma'am...that's between you and your husband.....no, I won't tell you what kind of officer I am....ma'am, you're acting completely irrationally. Your son is playing right now and having a great time...ma'am..that's between you and your husband. I'm sorry ma'am....etc......"
STBXW then called the police. My sister who lives across the street from me saw the commotion and called to tell me. My buddy called the local precinct and they said I was fine. I drove S6 home and spoke with the P.O. I told him that she was crazy and irrational, that last year she filed a false police report, etc. My buddy called at the same time and spoke with the officer. He thanked me and waved me off.
My son slept over. So did I..on the couch..just to be safe.
And all.....ALL....because my son wanted a sleepover.
The next day, my son didn't want to leave and was afraid of verbal retribution from STBXW.
Shaken but not stirred. FIB
Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11) Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10 Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;
