... you may want to add something else to your new year's goals....stop saying things that will hurt him .... for example"
<<During our fight I used on purpose one of his fav phrases "you are the worst person I have met in my life and sadly I married you" Yeah I know... He didnt take it well and he was even more hurt when I said he just "plays the good person he is a rotten person inside" . Again something that really hurt me years ago. So, when we talked I asked him if he remembered how many times I had cried myself to sleep after being told I had a chitty soul etc etc... >>
What possible good can come out of this???
Have to agree with this one. Yes, he hurt you in the past. But bringing it up this way is very destructive. If you want to discuss past hurts, the middle of a new argument is the worst time for it. Find a mutually agreed upon time, say what hurt you and how you felt, hope for an apology, and move on. You cannot reconcile if every time you have a little argument, you try to murder your opponent.
