imLIN, ty for your post...it helps!

[mollygirl]

He told me two weeks into he felt more married to me than had his ex wife (16 years marriage). I too was married 16 years the first time.

His mother was in/out of hospital in spring for depression. August 09- son having emotional problems over divorce, told he might lose his job, his daughter left for college and he buried two close friends. In addition I got out of control one night over something very silly (too much wine??) and the next weekend he bailed. I truly believe that with his engineering job, 21 yards he mows a week, the stress from the job, family, getting ready to be 50 and the fight just snapped him.

I do not want to give up him or us. We truly had a fantastic relationship. I think the month of August had us both on edge with what was happening.

He proposed to me June 08 in front of 36 of our friends and I had put the wedding off because of his job situation (I am self employed) and didn't want to add any more stress to him. I see myself more at fault in a lot of not communicating than him.