imLIN, ty for your post...it helps!

[mollygirl]

Snod, ok, I am a strong person but this has devastated me. I truly found my "partner"...

Do you think from my post that he is in MLC...it was just so weird. No other woman until 7 weeks after he left and then it was platonic (think there may be some libido issues) because she was 59 and he is 49. Yes, I do know there was no physical affair because she is a friend of a client. Now the woman he has been seeing for the last three weeks is also older and I do defintely think it is sexual because she is well, a tramp, and I think that makes him feel better about himself and libido; I also think that is why I haven't heard from him.

As I stated we had some really deep, open talks, several hours each time about his anger, possible depression and I think I hit too close to him and it scared him away and haven't heard from him since.

He is an egineer (possibly being laid off after 23 years) and mows commercial lawns on the side (21 a week), he has completely let most of his lawn customers slide in the last two months, not doing anything, he is still (I think) living a room of someone's house and has had vbery little contact with "our" friends. I feel like he is running from responsibility as well as everything else.

I know I can't help him but 4 months into this and I still can't seem to get over it.

I do have three men who have asked me out. One of them I have known for many years. Any thoughts on that? This man adored me, I know that, no big problems in the relationship, I do not want to give up on him but know that I need to move on.

I mainly wanted your thoughts too, on if you did think it was MLC.

I am just still so confused..