What can I do to save my marriage? Help

[Sleepy]

I don't think she was. She said that she went to bed at 11 pm and the kids woke up on their own at 1 am then turned on the TV. She is punishing my daughter. Of course, It was all my fault because I "kicked" her out of our bedroom.

She knows I am deleting history from my computer now and demands to know what I am doing. She says I can check her computer. She says she is transparent. I remain silent. There is no way I will expose this site.

I will remain dark and mysterious. It is killing her to find out what I am doing. I think it's best to let her mind think the worst.

I thought things were going better.

Her fantasy is that I divorce her, give her full custody of the kids, she lives in an expensive gated community without any change in her lifestyle $$ and without me.

I tell her that I am going to work part time so on my weeks I devote full attention to the kids when I get them. I wouldn't have to worry about nanny duty to get them to school and pick them up because of my work schedule. When she hears this she starts crying. "I will have to work full time and I will be a lousy mother" I now know she is trying to manipulate me.

Lotus is right.