I don't know the full story behind you sitch, and I don't recall seeing your thread before. But, it sounds like you are holding on when you need to let go. Who knows where that will end up, but I can almost guarantee that the harder you grasp, the more he's going to run.
So, LET GO. You have NO CONTROL over him or his decision. He sounds quite lost too, from your post. You need to focus on yourself, change what needs changing, then live those changes. Maybe he notices, maybe not. Out of you control.
If you let him go, that is the only way he will have teh space and time to sort himself out.
