But, whether its MC or Retro, don't you think that the WAS has to at least be open to discussing and considering reconciliation for those methods to be effective. And I'm not talking about being effective for learning co-parenting or communication. I'm talking about effective for reconcoliation.
GIMA,
I have seen many people go to Retrouvaille and get many different results. And I have found that I cannot predict who will reconcile as a result of the experience, and who will not. Generally, I find that about 50% have a good experience and reconcile, 35% have a good experience and divorce anyway, and 15% have a bad experience. It is a small minority who actually have a bad experience and get nothing from it.
I agree that both spouses need to be open to the experience. That is why before they take the registration, Retrouvaille asks every spouse if they will come with an "open mind and a willing heart." However, there are people who say they are going with an open mind who don't, and there are those who get there with a closed mind and open up. So, I truly believe it never hurts to try to go there.
In this case, I suggested it only if she says she does not want a divorce. If she wants a divorce, so be it. I do think that I have seen other threads on which Clinging to Hope posted that he wished his wife would go to Retrouvaille with him. So I was suggesting a way for him to broach the subject. If I have him confused with someone else, I'm sorry, my mistake. i read many threads, and many people have similar situations, sometimes I mix them up.
