SD, right now you sound like the controllingest controlling person in controllingville. KNOW. STOP. MUST.

She is going to do what she wants. PERIOD.

You know what you know, yo. Let it go.

Let's spend our time figuring out what we can do to help you get into a better frame of mind.

You are a soldier, for cripes sake.

Stand up for yourself. You know what they say...if you don't stand for something, you'll fall for anything.