The only professional counselors available through this website are the paid staff of Michele Weiner Davis, the Divorcebuster's counselors. They do not post on the website. The posters on this website are all amateurs with personal experience with infidelity. If you have professional credentials, Puppy, please post them. And you would probably not be going by an alias. Also, if you were posting professionally, and you told someone, unsupported by evidence, that their spouse was lying to them, you could be sued for saying that. What peer reviewed thousands of cases do you have to support your "data"? You are expressing your personal opinion as an anonymous person, don't try to make it something more than it is. I am doing the same.