You REALLY ready for her to fight? Another alternative may be to file, sit down with her to discuss a settlement (not reconciliation) so she can see what post-D will look like interms of finances and visitation and hoilidays). You still send the same message ("I'm done") but may end up saving yourself a bunch of money. Not saying you are wrong in this part of your plan. Just another option to consider.
I've thought about this, but it would be hard for me. Filing now is going to put W in a bind -- but I can't worry about that. I'm not just seeking to put what we are doing now down in print. I want a significant change -- 50/50 joint physical custody and no child support. I want to split expenses like daycare, summer camps, theater stuff. But I want to stop blindly giving her 28 percent of my net income every two weeks when she outearns me by $8,000 per year and I'm already taking care of them 40 percent of the time.
That's something I don't think can be worked out face-to-face and I worry I'll cave.
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