Yesterday, while at work, several of my employees that have noticed my W in town with OM caught up with OM in a parking lot where he works at. One of my guys wanted to smash his face in, another called me on the phone at office. I rushed over to stop a confrontation, thinking it would have negative effect if W found out my boys did something like this.
I did not even know that some of my guys knew who this fella is, or what he drove.
I got there, employee was gone. OM was there, and I could not help myself.
This was our first face to face....
I walked up to his vehicle, he rolled down the window. I extended my hand, and he extended his. At this point, I do not think he knew who was....
I said, " I am W's H. I love my wife and what you are doing is wrong. My S loves his mother and wants her home. W and I have some things that we need to work out. I am not sure of your intensions, but you need to back off. I do not wish to have problems with you but if this continues, there could be. Man to man, I am telling you to back off". He just said, I don't want no prob's either, and your boys are not doing anything to threaten me. He stared at me, and I left.
I wanted to smash his face, but did not. . . .
Did I mess up talking to OM. I did not plan too, was going to try and avoid while giving W space.... it just happened.
Ordinarily, I don't advise it, but think you handled it with grace and strength, Patpat. Well done. Just don't expect him to be honest with you.
