Please forgive the cynicism of so many of the people on this board. They have all been lied to, some for years. That doesn't mean that their situation is your situation.
Lotus,
With all due respect, I don't need you to ask for forgiveness for me and my opinions and recommendations. I base them strictly on my studying of thousands of affairs over the past six years, not on my own situation (for the record, my wife and I are reconciled. She lied to me for two months during her affair, at which time I re-confronted her and she was honest from that point forward [and yes, I checked]). It does no good for Soldier to stick his head in the sand.
I prefer the Ronald Reagan position of "Trust -- but verify."
I've stuck my ass out probably 150-200 times on this board in calling them as I see them, and to my knowledge I've only been wrong about it ONCE (and I'm still not sure about that one).
