wifeleft2009, I won't mention it anyway - what's the point - I am just very disappointed if it was done on purpose.
Does no family member find it funny that my husband decides overnight that he wants a divorce, just like that - ok if we were a couple who fought a lot but we didn't. Does none of them ever stop and think - maybe my daughter in law is right and there is more to this divorce story then just a stupid shop?
I guess no point dwelling anymore - it's their loss not mine.
ya well I think thats the common case at least for me too! we rarely fought and by fought i dont mean even yelling even!!!
Glad you got an agreement for the weekly support. That's a relief. How're you going to do the dark NC while having kids? I'd like to know more about your outline for how he can contact the kids. Sounds like something I should do. I feel I've let WAH have me at his mercy for when he visits the kids. I like your plan.
I am not sure yet - usually he would text me once a week for the kids to call him(it's cheaper as we have the landline and he has the mobile phone) - I am trying to go around that now as I don't want any texts from him anymore.By the way he changed the mobile phone provider as the bills were so high – I would have had a different suggestion to lower them lol We had agreed on a weekly sum for me to take out of the joint account - so I still have my debit card I just don't want to use it anynmore – that’s why I set up the standing order – just don’t know what to do about the mortgage – I haven’t set up a direct debit so we are more flexible but I don’t want to end up every month having to ask him if it’s ok to take it. Haven’t figured that out yet. I just want my peace – that’s all.
sorry for not posting in a while - I guess I have given up - feel pretty low right now so that doesn't help. It's WAH birthday today - I sent him a short message but other then that we are not talking at all.
After he went back abroad I had a nice NYE and a nice New years day - my friends are going out of their way to make me feel included in festivities. I am so grateful for that.
But inside I just feel numb and helpless - mornings are the worst - funnily enough I never think about what WAH is doing now or who he is with - I am not interested in that - all I am interested is to know the truth about my marriage and why it ended. I guess I just want closure and move on and because I might not get it I feel pretty desperate.
