On the possible A, is it a dealbreaker for you? If it is true, are you done or could you forgive her and help repair your M? Unless it's a dealbreaker
Before reading the many threads I would have said it was but now I would be willing to work through it. I have more insight into the role that I have played in setting the stage for it to happen. Still doesn't excuse it but it is what it is.
"The first step in the acquisition of wisdom is silence, the second listening, the third memory, the fourth practice, the fifth teaching others." Solomon Ibn Gabriol
