Right now, I just don't care. I made my share of mistakes in this M, but I do not deserve to be treated this way.
Nope. You don't.
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Just a quick call, hey, you'll be getting papers tomorrow at work.
You REALLY ready for her to fight? Another alternative may be to file, sit down with her to discuss a settlement (not reconciliation) so she can see what post-D will look like interms of finances and visitation and hoilidays). You still send the same message ("I'm done") but may end up saving yourself a bunch of money. Not saying you are wrong in this part of your plan. Just another option to consider.
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I know Dottie the DB counselor will be disappointed, but if there was any indication that W was rethinking things I wouldn't go this route.
I'm sure Dottie is fantastic, but you don't owe her, or any of us here, anything. It's YOUR life, YOUR M, YOUR decision.
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She does not respect me. She thinks I'll just sit here forever and take it. I will not. My daughters love me. They will always love me. I will always be there for them. Funny, I will always be there for W, even as an X. But I will not stand for this disrespect.
Maybe. Maybe even likely. But, you're mindreading. And you MAY be right. It's been a while since I read your thread, so forgive me if I'm wrong here (wouldn't be the first or last time for that). You sound angry and hurt. And that's both understandable and ok. God knows, I understand that. But, if you are making this decision to go forward based on emotion, I suggest you take a step back. 48 hour rule - if it's a good idea, it will still be so in two days, but the emotions will have subsided by then.
If you can truly say your deicision is based on logic v. emotion, then forge ahead. And you will never be at a point where some emotion is not involved with this decision. You just have to make sure emotion is in the back seat and that logic is driving.
