Deployed Soldier/Father needs your help

[SoldierDad]

Ok,

have calmed down, and have re-looked my thread. Wow, I have been all over the place!

Here are a few of the things I am concerned about, in the coming weeks/months:

1. W REFUSED to admit any part in an A. Kept saying "you know me better than that". Cheaters always lie.

2. I KNOW W has cheated-PI, and other findings. When/how do I address this, she vehemently denied anything before I left - and still does.

3. Knowing W wanted to attend MC, how/when do I bring this up?

4. W and I spoke of her maybe being Bi-polar-how/when to address this? I don't believe she will go to doctor, and spill beans on this w/o me being there.

5. W texted me a few times last night-I kept replies short/to the point - Do I continue this?

6. W has been sitting at home - all her friends have been on Christmas vacation. Once they return, I believe she will go back to her old ways of going out and partying-but I have no way of knowing this. This concerns me, as she may fall right back into what she was doing-and, I know I can't control what she does, I just don't WANT her to do that stuff anymore.

7. Not sure what else to do about M, besides GAL, DB.

8. I have about 10 weeks left over here, then return stateside. Is there anything I can do before I return, to help W along towards MC, and IC?
Nevermind-gotta detach, and not "fix" her. She has to want to do it, I'm just not sure she knows what to do, or what is wrong with her.

9. Also, when/if the discussion goes to the R/M, it always gets shifted towards what I have done wrong-she deflects all criticism away from her-I think the R/M talk needs to wait until I return and we are in MC-agreed?