Do I worry that she'll pull something if I go away for a night? Not really. Don't get me wrong, the thought crosses your mind, but when I think about it, it's my insecurity more than really thinking she'll pull something else.
You've been through this, as we all have, and there are SO many things that people in A's do and say to tip their hand that I feel like it would almost be impossible for her to have another one without me knowing. Maybe a ONS she could get away with, but with all we've been through and her remarkable turnaround these last 9 months, I just don't see it, at least not at this moment.
There were a couple times shortly after the A ended for OM, but not for W (she still hung on even though OM had moved on to his next victim months before) that I went away for a few days (once for work and once for pleasure) that I was so sure in my mind that he'd be coming to visit for that good by boink that while I was away it was all I could think about. But when I got home and W was in a totally pissy mood, it reaffirmed to me that W wanted OM to visit and he blew her off. I even saw a TM between W and a GF stating that on one of the trips.
So yes, being as new to piecing as you are, those feelings are totally normal, but ya know what? Like I told Pearl on her thread, if she's going to do that or go there again, I'm done and won't look back, so if she wants to F it up, that's her business.
Hope this helps.
Hope4us
Me - 49, W 49 S22 & S18 Dday 9/4/07 W claims NC 4/7/08 8/29/09 - Divorce Busted. Lots to work through, but we're going to make it.
