You made your case (i.e., your feelings are known). The c made the case about what it'd do to the kids...And your wife chose to ignore your feelings and the professional opinion of the c...
Now that you made your case clearly, the stronger position for you is - Don't keep making it. HER Choices speak for themselves...so let them echo on...
(For future purposes, make your points from the standpoint of being the father of the children & not as her ex h or her "still legally m" h, b/c she has no regard for that "status" or your ego, but at some level she knows you do retain rights as the DAD and by thinking about your kids- you're doing the right "Dad" thing....whether that induces guilt in her - or admiration for you, or neither, matters little now. So you Just make it all about what's best for the girls. That matters to the ones who count the most...the girls. (And Him).
So what is left to beat about this dead horse topic? Harping on it will definitely backfire on you. Let her choices seep. You can't change them - so why argue them again? You look so much stronger and she looks so much weaker, if you "rest your case" with the point you made and the C as an ally and now let your ex w look in the mirror knowing that she rationalizes things frighteningly well....Otherwise it's like her nagging you not to drink. Sorry if the analogy is close to home but I'm tired and it's late...so, Once someone says, "hey, IMO, you're an alcoholic and you have to stop drinking or you'll hurt someone..." if they hear you, and still drink, there's nothing left to say or do so let it go.....it will haunt them more than it would if they spent their time arguing and defending and deflecting...or it won't haunt them at all. Which means your continued harping would not haunt them, but YOU'D have spent all those precious hours on earth...harping and nagging...and she won't change one iota for all that. Frankly Kevin, this year, you have better & more important and more joyful things to do with your energy and loving heart, and whatever else you discover and build in yourself. So on that note...
Good luck, J
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
