Ooh I'd kill for a day in the sunshine by the beach.. its frosty and icy here in the uk at the moment..

Perfect DB'ing just getting on with things, youv'e read my thread, thats what happened with my H, after not seeing him for a month in which I made my biggest 180's and got used to practising them for me first of all, he popped in for a visit, and then gradually like your H spent more and more time here..

Your best ally is your S.. I never had any input into my S seeing his dad, they are very close and S just carried on visiting and txting his dad as normal.. But he did not necessarily intentionally rely info back to H.. Ok your S is only a tiddler but he will tell his dad all the nice times he is having and how he enjoys being with both of you!

Dont necessarily think your H is having an A unless you can proof it.. Sometimes its a bit "theres got to be someone" on here but my H never had and yours may not have too.. I think depression and stress kicked my H off and ok its been hell for the last few months but maybe if you get a happy marriage out of this struggle it will have been worth it, and you can show little S that when things go pearshaped you work at it.

If you can get your panicking nailed, not only will you be happier but it will be a big obvious 180 to your H and I know mine really appreciates mine now. Ok some times frustration kicks in and I get a little antsy, but if I do lose it a bit recognising it and apologising to H works, I realised I made H responsible for stuff that wasnt his responsibility or his fault!

Hope you have had a lovely day, its my last day off so back to work tomorrow, will be quite busy for a few weeks then got some more time off! Yippee!

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W 47
H 47
M 24
T 30

Once lost but now found and happily married again!