You will be home soon and you will see what is what then. It is good that you caught the email. Her words are certainly not something she should be proud of, but they are not completely incriminating either. It is important that you go home happy to see your family. It is hard for women to be separated from their men for such a long time. Temptation can creep in. She needs to see you as much as you need to see her. Going to MC is a very good idea. Talking to your priest also may be helpful. Families need support to deal with the unnatural living conditions that deployment forces on them.
Trust is one of the cornerstones of a healthy marriage. Where there is no trust the entire marriage can crumble. You need love, commitment, forgiveness, and trust. And you need them all at once, not one at a time. When you get home you will have the opportunity to prop up those four supports. Yes, it's a gamble to trust another person with your heart. But if you don't do it, you won't enjoy the rewards of a good loving relationship.
Please forgive the cynicism of so many of the people on this board. They have all been lied to, some for years. That doesn't mean that their situation is your situation. My husband lied to me too. but we repaired our marriage and over time we rebuilt the trust and commitment. And our marriage is better than before. If he spoke to his x-girlfriend one time and I found out, I would look him in the eye and remind him of the seriousness of his actions. But I would believe him if he told me it was innocent. Losing faith in my husband would be very detrimental to our marriage. I would not do it at the drop of a hat.
I hope that you will have a wonderful visit with your family.
