We do not have insight into your wife. We would pass her on the street and not know it was her. We can tell you that in most cases when spouses get secretive they are having an affair. But that is not always true, and no one here knows whether your wife is having an affair. We have also seen several cases where the spouse who cheated has a difficult time dealing with the guilt from the affair. That can be a significant cause of strain on a marriage. I think your wife is being truthful with you. Her desire to go to both IC and MC are a very good sign. Cheaters do not want to go to MC because they are mentally done with the marriage and are dreaming of the new relationship. Your wife does not sound like she is now in an affair.
