I almost feel stupid for my previous posts since I didn't read everything first. But, here are my thoughts. because of your inability to believe he had been trying...your sarcasm about him saying the a guy's staring at his hot wife...and the other things G and I mentioned that you weren't totally believing. I would assume that because you are showing this to us, your probably showing this to H too. IDK, since I'm not there seeing it happen, but that is why I think he backed off. plus, that is usually the trend anyways...they get close, then back off because they get scared, or whatever. Or, perhaps there is an OW, not that he is having an EA or PA, but maybe it is the reason for his confusion. who knows. either way, your goal needs to be the same, and you need to start doing what G's been telling you.
I am glad that you mentioned him doing acts of service isn't what you need. don't expect something to magically happen though. if acts of service is his top LL, then he is showing you love now. it's hard to change what you've been doing all your life.
I'm really sorry for the turn of events. I don't believe for one second that your M is 99% failed. IMHO, you still have a tremendous amount of reason to be hopeful.
and if your H's LL is acts of service...what acts of service did you do for him during the xmas/movie night days? could he have felt that his trying wasn't matched because he was looking for love in a different way than you were showing it?
(((luv)))
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
