WAW wants to get togeather?

[Gnosis]

Glad you had a good time over NYE.

I think Ive been doing great at not showing any sighn of the sadness I feel

Stop thinking and start doing... just like NYE. Didn't that turn out better than expected?

for loosing the love of my life to not only another guy but such a looser.. its more than a slap in the face when you see how bad this guy looks

Newsflash... it's not about looks. If think that this is all there is to attraction you are sadly mistaken. It's about attitude, body language, composure, confidence and more. I think you need to take some time aside and examine yourself thoroughly. Why? Because you're too focused on appearance and looks. Sorry to say, but that's immature thinking.

anyway I cant help but wonder when or even if she will she see what she did!

This is where you are tripping yourself up. What she thinks or feels while she is living in her fantasy and rejecting you are no longer your concern. Whether she will or won't have remorse is beyond your control and a waste of energy. Focus on what you can control and improve: Yourself, your kids.

I still have a hard time beliving life is good living with parents, no car, no job...

If you don't like something you can choose to change it...

This quote is from the movie Shawshank Redemption: You can get busy living or you can get busy dying

In the end its all about your choice.

(You have my sympathy, but NOT my pity WL. Get your ass in gear. This is all about mindset... and choice.)

[wifeleft2009]

I think you took some of what I wrote too much at face value... when I say look at the guy I mean every way about him. his values, everything


I do my own thing and I try but I think you miss what I was writing here

[Gnosis]

WL my apologies.

[wifeleft2009]

no prob but I enjoy the input from other peoples takes on my stitch.. I think the drug use has made a very rough situation that much more of a task but I will get through it.

[bluerain]

Hi WL, I hope that you can appreciate the last part of what Gnosis said. He was absolutely right that you cant worry about when or if it will hit her, how long could you wait? Weeks, months, years? Nope, you dont have time for that, none of us do.

Life probably isnt excellent for her right now, but again, sooo not your problem. The drug use is an added facet in your sitch, but shes still behaving pretty predictably. And it probably makes it even more important that you stick to your guns and protect yourself and your kids.

[wifeleft2009]

BR, I understand what you guys are saying its just the whole fighting your hart and listening to your brain

[newmama]

WL, the A will end and then you will have to deal with the drug use. That will be harder IMO.

About other women not being interested in a man with kids...where are you getting your info?! I have 3 very attractive and interesting female friends who all married men with kids! One has a daughter from her first marriage. If you get to that point, you might just open your pool to older women (like 30-34?) or to other divorced women with kids.

[wifeleft2009]

WL, the A will end and then you will have to deal with the drug use. That will be harder IMO.

About other women not being interested in a man with kids...where are you getting your info?! I have 3 very attractive and interesting female friends who all married men with kids! One has a daughter from her first marriage. If you get to that point, you might just open your pool to older women (like 30-34?) or to other divorced women with kids.

WOW shocked that got brought up now.. LOL ... Belive me there are ALOT who dont like the idea of three kids. Yes your right alot don't care about that but, it is another big variable men or women base off of.

As for the drug use... IDK Its hard to say if it would be harder or not. guess it really depends on the person

and for the A Im a bit surprised its lasted this long and a bit disappointing. I read that the Average relationship lasts 5-6 months, she had to really make things in common with him. maybe since they just started offically dating with in weeks??? IDK

I had a talk With W last night for about a half hour, It started out about her not telling D8 the truth on what she has done and why she left.. She just kept talking even after a few light trys on my part to end the call.. W kept going into detail on here path to recovery and a future idea on leaving state to some type of halfway house.. (that struck me as odd since OM wont be able to see her)

She says she is scarred about court on this Wed. for her other pending issues,

she went on to say she was going to be hanging out with her old best friend again.
(even though I think this friend got W into this mess with baby steps. but this girl also has told me she is discusted with what W is doing.. maybe after time W will see what a W H and kids look like in the same house??)

W made a few comments on "Thought she was unhappy here" and "Lost everything" IDK prob still has her head so high up in the clouds still



Well I know it looks like I shooot down ideas here sometimes but I do like the ideas and views. I think about them

[newmama]

read that the Average relationship lasts 5-6 months, she had to really make things in common with him. maybe since they just started offically dating with in weeks??? IDK

I read 6 mo-2 years...as for what they have in common...a shared love of the same drugs perhaps? addicts need to use with other addicts (at the minimum she may be abuing the drug use if addict is too strong of a term for you)

[wifeleft2009]

well I guess 2 years would make more sense, I'm guessing for him once he starts hanging out with girls his age again he will be gone.