I was prepared to just go about my day at the beach with S and tell H that I can't guarantee being back here at any specific time on such short notice. Guess who showed up for the afternoon and joined S and I at the beach. H has continued to be calmer and we laughed and had a good time. Good DBing for me - just having my ME & S time and not focussing on H. Thank you LR for the coaching!
I resisted the urge to panic when he kept saying he "had to go" tonight. I was worried about OW although there is no evidence of it. Instead of asking where he was going, as I was tempted to do and have done, I just made the decision that my 180 is to never ask where he is going, even if he is secretive. I may start being more secretive myself.
We're spending the afternoon as a family tomorrow too. So I don't know what he's doing at night, but daytime he is totally accountable. I will not look as if I even care where he is.
