Your situation sounds alot like mine a few months ago..cake eating, spending time with you and the kids to fill that void and then going out to fill other voids. It is not right at all. I am going to make my W a nice S?!t cake and send it her way.
I would keep my distance like you are doing and play the game, especially since she seems to be showing interest in you or is at least intrigued by your behavior. You are right, she needs to come to you. Base this on her actions, not her words. Aliens will say anything to limit pain and help justify their bad decisions.
