NC - W vanished ...

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Cutter,

I'm actually not sure how to respond to that. I've read it several times and it's scary - scarily accurate.

I'm not sure of the path she will follow either. I do feel that whichever one it is, is without me. It's scary to think of her self-destructing and I can't help. It's scary to see her in a relationship that will have exactly the same problems as this one. You see she has major communication problems. She is a conflict avoider. I said to her many times that if I had ONE wish, just ONE wish, it would be that she could communicate with me - communicate about her FEELINGS not about her work and hobbies. She did sometimes and I would say that I am one of the very few she did do that with. He may have her eating out of his hand, I do not know. But unless she starts to open up her relationship with anybody is doomed.

My W has had many relationships. Mine has been the longest and the one that led to marriage. I think I know her well enough, and yet I feel I don't know her at all.

Let me digest what you said and come back to this post. It's thrown me a little. You spent a lot of time over it and I don't want to demeen it with a silly response.