Gima, Yeah, I have seen your posts elsewhere. Welcome to the forum. How has your DBing efforts been going? What are you doing that is working? What is not? Have you tried anything different?
I wish I was still under the same roof with my W after the sh!t I have been through since I lost my cool and kicked her out. However, the until the separation I could not stop doing all the wrong things and really detatch from her which I can honestly say I have not done 100% yet.
Thanks for the welcome. Can't say I've done much DB'ing (consciously at least) since W said she never agreed to go to MC for reconciliation. Since then, I have focused even more (already was) on my kids and myself.
I have pulled back from W, not rudely, but in an effort to bring some reality to what her post-D life will look like. No family trips - she doesn't want to keep the family together. No birthday (Dec. b'day) or Christmas present from me to her - just from the kids to her. There are others, too numerous to mention.
I don't mean to sound bitter - I battle a little resentment occasionally, but I am not bitter. Disappointed, yes. But, I know I cna't do this for her.
And, obviously, so far, what I have done hasn't worked. Which is part of the reason for me being done.
