No, I've not told W yet. I posted my questions and didn't receive any response, so I held up. I'm listening to you and others on this forum and won't act alone. I will be patience (my #1 resolution).
I wanted to update you what's going on:
W came home at 10:00 PM last night and went to our master bedroom (MB) to put back the bed lining she just fixed. I told her that "I don't think it's good idea that you take your kids out when you're going out to meet OM. I feel disrespectful. The kids will be confused and this can hurt them later. If you want to drag our kids into this mess, I'll do my best to protect them from exposing to this. At the end, they will get hurt the most." and I walked away. What her response was "why I'm so difficult. If she goes out by herself, I'll tell her that I'm not her babysister. When she takes the kids out, I'm not happy. What can she do to make me happy? It's just a friendship. She doesn't do any wrong."
Later, she came to see me when I was in another bed room and read a book. She asked me what do I think. When she is downstairs and I'm upstairs (180s and giving her space). She's upset so she goes out. If we live like this why don't we call it quit. I looked into her eyes and listened to her and didn't say anything. She walked back to our MB and watched TV why she was knitting (her hobby). Later, I went to the room and told her "I feel sorry when you think it that way", then, walked back to my room. However, I thought I should make a nice gesture, so I came back to the room, joined her. She was sitting in the bed and I laid down on the floor and continued to read my book. Around 11:30 PM, I went to bed. When walking out off the room, I gave her a kiss on her forehead and said "Thank you for fixing the bed lining. It looks great".
In the early morning, she came to my bed and laid down next to me. I wrapped my hands around her for a few minutes and then went to our MB and slept there.
This morning I told her I'll go to see my family in MD with the kids. My mom wanted to see our kids. She's missed them. In addition, our family wants to get together for the New Year and a birthday party for my oldest sister and me ( yeah, today is my birthday. I'm officially 43 now). I planned to go last week but didn't tell her until this morning. We seldom tell each other what our plan is until last minute. I think we live in a different world. Please note she is not happy with my family for a couple of reasons. She thinks I don't stand up for her, and my family told her things that she didn't agree with. She has used these reasons to adjust her behavior.
She texted me when I's on my way to MD. She said we should divorce, so I can have more time with my family. Now she understands who my family is (whatever it means). She has D papers for me to sign when I get home. She has used the big D three time already to say we should split. I've not responded to her yet. However, I think I will tell her that "I understand you think my family does a birthday party for me. However, I'm old for a BD party. My mom wants to see the kids, and our kids want to see their cousins. That's all."
If she gives me the paper, I'll tell her that I've not decided what to do yet. Will let you know.
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Why should you sleep someplace else after telling her she has two weeks to get out of A,etc.? If you leave the house, then you may not be able to go back. IDK.
Just thought about it. But it's not a good option. I just thought that when I gave her the 2-week notice. She may do something stupid that I need to avoid any confrontation.
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...then please wait until you have more information.
Absolutely, I need to wait.
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...BTW, you said you had not slept with her in a couple of nights. What did you say to her about that?
She has gone to sleep with me when I sleep in a separate bedroom. Nothing happens. I just wrap my hands around her for a few minutes and then either walking out to sleep somewhere else or staying there but don't touch her again. I have not told her why I don't want to have sex with her.
Sandi, I do know I'm good hands with you and others in this forum. I know I have to be patience and do when timing is right. I read your comments word by word. Thank you is not enough.
Know what you need and happy with what you've gotten.
