No, it's not that easy. It's a lot of years to forget. There will always be triggers that remind you of a good memory because I bet there were many. Just remember the memory fondly, maybe have a few tears, and try and move on. You had the young H, the best of him, and OW will have the old, worn out H (which you wouldn't have minded after all your years together, but imagine starting out at that point).
I feel for you with S17 and D14. But, they will be back ... they always come back to mommy because they are confident your door will always be open. With XH, the open door comes with conditions. It's okay for now, but wait until they're older. At least, you get a break from teen angst for a time.
Take care.
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
